FeelingWow! Magazine

One of the hardest things to do is to present yourself in a positive light. It’s easy to make the mistake of trying way too hard - and turning ourselves into fabulous, flawless and divine indivuduals. Or even worse - we don’t value ourselves enough or lack a bit of confidence in presenting our selves in the best way. I other words we sell ourselves short.

Life is hectic and complicated enough - so we don’t often have all the time in the world to catch someone’s interest.

A little effort before hand can reap big rewards.

So get started and write a great description of yourself. Try and be honest in terms of your positive points and your not so positive ones.

1. Get a Great Photo - and Look Happy!

Some of the photos on the online personal sites - could make me run for the hills.

You have been warned : I advise not taking a photograph of yourself if you are looking like a mess, tired, hung over, or not in a great mood.

I recommend a bright and colorful photograph - ideally focusing on the head and shoulders, with natural lighting or at least a well lit shot. Make yourself stand out with a fabulous smile and some colorful clothes or background.

2. Avoid Common ‘Over Used’ Words

Do these phrases sound familiar : “great personality” “likes movies” “enjoys eating out” “caring”

Yawn - Yawn

The details are what will bring your profile to life.

Revealing details about yourself, allows your viewers to form a multi-dimentional image of you. Therefore you appear far more memorable to them.

3. Rub Your Aladin’s Lamp and State Your Wishes

If you’re thinking that your ideal mate will ’sense’ a connection when replying - take a reality check. It’s far better to be clear about what we would like, and also what we do not want in a potential suitor. Your replies will be more targetted and of a higher quality.

If your imaging a mate like yourself - one in which you’re both singing from the same hymm sheet - have the same desires, well mention that in your profile.

Don’t risk being too general and grey or you will get far too many unsuitable responses.

4. Tell Me No Lies or Porkies

Keep exaggeration, gloss and hype to a minimum. You are not a used car salesperson.

Often hype is most ‘in your face’ when it comes to describing appearance. If you haven’t added your photo (and I can’t think why not) then describing yourself as a very attractive buff builder is sure to disappoint a few fair damsels - firstly because you have not added a photo (hmmm) and secondly attraction is a personal thing.

Your mother may be singing your praises, but a “great person”, one who “you will not regret meeting” with a “fantastic personality” is so 80’s darling.

Keep it real.

5. Don’t Forget the Foundations

When getting to know someone, a few key fundamental information points are useful. These include your marital status, age, level of education, job, and general geographic location.

Do not give any specifc information about yourself. This is for your safety.

6. Flavour Your Life

We all like heroes, strong characters, people who believe in something important to their hearts.

We love them because we can identify with some value or goal of theirs. We feel motivated and inspired by them.

Discover the flavor of your life and create a great description that highlights this.

Write down the many things that inspire you, make you happy, and make you laugh. Include your best skills and traits, and what makes you unique.

e.g. Doctor and Humanitarian - Big Kid , Young at Heart - Seeking Partner in Crime and Frolicks

7. Knock Yourself Out

Like with most things in life - often it’s the simplest things that make us happy.

So keep your smarts about you, but don’t forget - life was never meant to be hard. Keep it fun and light, and make it an opportunity to also learn and grow.