FeelingWow! Magazine

A lot of relationships suffer from a breakup because of misunderstanding. On feels that her partner doesn’t have time for the relationship anymore because he always works long hours. Then, the other feels that his partner doesn’t have time to meet his own needs becaise she spends almost all of her time with the kids. This kind of relationship immediately needs a fix. Yes, there is a step-by-step process to save this relationship.

Ask yourself if your relationship is worth saving. Of course every relationship can be saved but it takes hardwork and both parties to decide that they want to save and make the relationship work. If one partner has decided to end the relationship and doesn’t want to get back together again, odds to saving the relationship can be spoiled. Couples decide to get back together because of their children or because it is just convenient, which is not enough to save a relationship.

Pinpoint the problems in a relationship. People believe that the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself, and this is one of the biggest problems in how to save a relationship. Say, many people think an affair is a problem that causes break ups. In truth, the affair is actually a symptom of a deeper problem. What do you think causes your partner to have an affair? Reason could be, lack of true intimacy that leads to a straying spouse. Most people look at the affair as the problem, but the underlying cause of the affair was the lack of intimacy in the primary relationship. You and your partner may need to deal with the lack of intimacy, if not, your partner might be able to keep another affair or another problem could pop up. When you start to deal with core issues rather than symptoms, saving the relationship is possible.

If you have identified the problem is, hearing both of your thoughts is the next step. Tell everything you want to say to your partner and don’t hold back. Afterwards, listen to what your partner has to say. It is suppose to be that way to successfully save the relationship. Reconnect to your partner by holding each others hand while you discuss about your problem. Bear in mind, that anything the your partner talks about is meant to rebuild the relationship, not to hurt you.

Come up with an action plan and prepare sensible steps for it to fix the problem. You might want to wine and dine your partner or take her to a concert. Randomly suprise your partner with your love notes. Or just have a good conversation while in bed until you two fall asleep.

You must understand that once you commit to save your relationship, you are committing to the whole process of it. As you move forward, there will be moments of joy and there will also be moments of sorrow.

If your relationship is worth saving, there is no reason whatsoever why you shouldn’t put forth an effort to save your relationship.